Ok. Sorry, I've been busy with the holidays and looking for work. This is just the worst time of year for jobhunting.
I care about the civility issue because I joined MBL to find people to bike with (of my non-MBL local friends, only two could keep up with me, and they travel for work a lot). But half the friends I've made here have left because
of the civility problems.
First of all: I'm sorry about bringing in other sites; that didn't work as an argument, and just served as a distractor. Oops. Bad tactic, no biscuit. It's just incredibly frustrating when people say that Internet spaces are inevitably cesspools. This simply isn't true.
I don't think MBL needs to be sanitized for 10-year-olds, but I think it needs to be welcoming for the majority of people who ride bikes. Again, if you're not willing to stand in front of the crowd at Babes In Bikeland and use a certain word or phrase, maybe you shouldn't use it here.
This is the first time I've heard anything like that (ok, Reverborama said something similar the day before, but that's the quote I found). I've asked around, and I've read the posts here. It's clearly the first time a number of people have heard it. So maybe that's the moderation stance, but it isn't widely known. People can flag anything they wish, sure, but if it's perceived to be pointless, they won't. And if the users of a site have a different view of what the moderation policy of the site is than the actual moderators -- and many of them were wishing it was more like what the moderator just said it was
-- that's a problem! That means that community values are not being communicated, etc.
So if people start flagging for civility problems, will they get a response at all? I don't mean to suggest that every such flag would be appropriate -- but what would have happened if someone had flagged "Cunty McTwat"? What will happen if someone flags something else that wouldn't be appropriate at Babes in Bikeland?